Off with her pubes! …and the age-old question, “Why don’t you shave your pits?” #NSFW 18+

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NSFW.  18+.  Please be aware, this article contains naked bodies.  While I see nothing pornographic or inappropriate about the artwork featured on this post, perhaps your boss or mother would.  That said, you’ve been warned.

I never anticipated my arm pit hair to turn into such a deep, political discussion, but it appears people have taken quite an interest in my body hair.  I started writing this article a couple of months ago, and it just sat in my drafts.  I got distracted.  However, since people are showing more interest in my hairy parts, I figured it might be a good time to go ahead and finish.  You know, give the people what they want.

| Chunni Suicide |

Typically I don’t discuss any “hate mail” or rude comments I receive, but just to prove a point, we’re going to dig around a bit.  I think seeing some of these comments will allow you to understand why I felt so inspired and compelled to write this article.

I recently posted a photo of myself, arm pits exposed for all the world to see, and got some interesting feedback regarding the photo.  The following are a few comments (verbatim) I received:

  • “Your pits are fucking disgusting, you fucking whore.”
  • “Check out her eyebrows. I didn’t even notice them at first. Those are out of control.”
  • “Haha I cant tell what’s hairier, her pits or eyebrows.”
  •  “yuckie hairy arm pits.?”

I would just like to question – Since when did one’s pit hair depict their sexual activity?

Isn’t it unfortunate that a human body in it’s natural state is deemed “not good enough” according to society?  It seems utterly ridiculous that something natural, which both sexes posses, is unacceptable on females.  Body hair on women is “not feminine.”  It’s “gross” or “weird.”  It baffles me that a natural body cannot be seen as beautiful.  Instead, beings are getting fat injected into their lips and sucked out of their stomachs.   Others are spending hours at the gym every week, taking supplements and drugs to bulk up.  Children are being told they aren’t skinny enough, not pretty enough, or that they’ll never be strong enough.  Advertisements and commercials are flashed in front of our faces hundreds of times a day, telling us what’s handsome and beautiful.  Instead of teaching us to embrace our natural body, we are expected to shave our legs, bleach our upper lips and wax our eyebrows.  I am disgusted.

| Sheena Lestrange |

Before we get a little personal, I shall have you know that this article was not written with intent to influence you to boycott the razor blade.  However, should an individual choose to do so, I would hope you respect their choices.  BODY POSITIVITY.  Whether a being is skinny, fat, short, tall, bald or hairy – we should embrace our bodies (and the hair attached to them), not bash them.

Anyone who knows me knows that I’m a pretty crusty kid.  My hair goes days (sometimes weeks) without washing.  It’s mainly because I am lazy, but also it styles hella easier when it’s dirty.  I also think it looks better.  Plus, washing your hair every day strips your hair of natural oils, so I can always use that excuse.  But to be honest, I’m just pretty lazy.

First of all, shaving takes too fucking long.  I feel like shaving adds an additional fifteen minutes onto my shower time – At least.  I already hate taking a shower, so why do I want to extend that time any longer than it takes me to wash my bod and get the hell out of there?  Secondly, if I wanted uber smooth legs all of the time, like some of the ladies I know, I would have to shave twice a day.  Hell.  No.  I haven’t the time nor the patience to dedicate to smooth legs.  Also, razor blades can be expensive if you splurge on blades that don’t leave your knees nicked up.

Why did you decide to stop shaving?  I suppose I had an epiphany in the shower one day when I was sudsing up.  I got to my underarms and said, “Holy hell!”  I don’t think I had shaved in a good two weeks.  I had just forgotten (which I do many times).  Then I questioned – WHY, if it’s such a pain in the ass, do I shave my pits?  I realize that it’s part of my showing routine, as I mindlessly pick up the razor and remove stumble from my arms.  But why?  Because I’ve simply been “accustomed” to it – Because since I was old enough to grow hair under my pits, I was taught that I should shave it off.  It’s gross.  It’s not feminine.  It’s unhygienic.  It’s fucking hair.  It’s hair.  Most boys I know don’t shave under their arms, yet that’s okay.  It just baffled me.  Why was I mindlessly doing this chore, and not evening questioning why I do it?  Schick allows me to “free my skin” (and apparently get piggy back rides with other topless beings).   Venus tells me I’m a goddess.  I think to all of these ads, featuring tan, hairless womyn looking happy and carefree with their sparkly razor blades, gliding smoothly across their bronzed legs (see – I already can’t relate, as I’m pastey as hell) – and I just don’t get it.

 Is it rebellion against perceived standards of beauty?  Yes and no.  That wasn’t my intention, but it most certainly seemed to have unfolded that way.

“If you’re an adult you should find a pre-adolescent-looking, bald bagina utterly resistible.  Utterly resistible.  You should find something so nothing-about-it.  You should have no truck with a bald area.  If you find an adult with a pre-adolescent-looking bagina, you are now a person of interest in my book, and I mean that in a bad way.”  – Janeane Garofalo [American stand-up comedian, actress, political activist and writer].

Sheena Lestrange by grrlphoto |

Let’s say the media starts telling us that blondes are bad.  They’re gritty.  They’re unsanitary and they carry disease.  They’re known for being poor and unhealthy.  Would everyone with blonde hair suddenly dye their hair to a more “respectable” brunette?  Probably not, because we would deem this accusation preposterous.  Some of us are naturally blonde, and others have been bleaching and dying our hair blonde for years.  Who’s got the nerve to tell us, now, after all this time, that blonde is bad?  I think it’s kind of the same concept with body hair.  The most interesting thing I found through all of this, is apparently, this pit hair was only really a “problem” as of (less than) a hundred years ago.  In the entire realm of things, that really isn’t that long ago.  Apparently, we’ve got the May 1915 cover of Harper’s Bazaar to thank for this.  You can read the full (interesting) article by Cecil Adams at Straight Dope here.

Yes, some individuals say they sweat more when they have hair under their arms, or they simply like the way sheets feel rubbing up against their silky legs.  Some people like themselves (and their partners) to be smooth as a baby.  I’m not saying everyone needs to throw away their razor blades and start growing out their furry spots.  Everyone has a preference, and everyone should fulfill their desires as they see fit!

If you think pubic hair on a woman is unnatural or weird, you aren’t mature enough to be touching vaginas. – Stoya [American pornographic actress and model].

What I’m saying is that we, as beings (regardless of our gender or sex), should be able to do what we please with our bodies, without being shunned, bullied or made fun of, or influenced by the media, our friends and family, or society in general.  If you want to shave, do it!  If you don’t, don’t!  I only hope that this way of thinking becomes more widely accepted.  That’s where it does turn into a “rebellion against perceived standards of beauty.”  I am confident.  I love my body and everything about it.  My hair doesn’t make me feel less feminine, less attractive or less confident.  If anything, it’s empowering to be able to do what I wish with my body, and be proud of it –  Slapping society’s beauty ideals right in the (clean shaven) face.  That’s one of the things The Radical Uprise is all about – Promoting body positivity, learning to be comfortable in our own skin, and accepting others in theirs.

If you don’t like someone’s hairy pits, don’t look at them!  If you don’t like someone’s stubbley legs, don’t touch them.  If body hair bothers you, shave yours off!

So – Why don’t you shave?  Because I don’t feel like it.   That’s all there is to it, and that’s pretty much was started this.  Pure laziness turned into an adoration.  I’m not the only one.  One of my favorite blogs, Hairy Pits Club, features some of the most beautiful girls I’ve ever laid eyes on – all baring their hairy pits.

Look, I’m not 11 anymore.  I’m a grown woman.  I’ve got body hair.  Deal with it.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – Pits or GTFO.

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15 responses »

  1. I agree with everything but this, “If shaving off your pubes so you resemble a pre-pubescent being is your cup of tea, then by all means, wax it, shave it, trim it, whatever you gotta do.” I understand that hairy is what you prefer but just because someone else doesn’t, it doesn’t mean that they are trying to look like a pre-pubescent being. I appreciate that this is your opinion and that is what you are sharing, but it is also about acceptance and body positivity. Shaming someone for shaving doesn’t seem to belong here.

    • This has been edited! I was playing off of Janeane’s quote, but realize it may have come off as shaming or offensive. Thank you for bringing this to my attention. xx

  2. This article is great. I stopped shaving this past winter and my pits seem to freak everyone out. I started off really confident, but the only people who really saw them at first were people who saw me naked because I wear long sleeves in winter. But now that it’s summer, and I’m wearing dresses (girly dresses! which freaks people out too, like I have to choose between my beautiful feminine summer dresses and my natural beautiful body hair.) I get all sorts of looks. My family especially. My sister: “Those are disgusting. Do not come near me unless your arms are down.” My mom: “… I hope you realize that nobody is going to find you attractive when you’re like that.” My dad: “Holy shit! When’s the last time you shaved?! *uproarious laughter*” My initial pride and confidence slowly dwindled, and it’s great to have a little booster like this to make me love my summer dresses and hairy pits still.

    • I think it can catch a lot of people off guard, but at the same time, I think the it’s starting to become a little more common and accepted (obviously not enough for people to quit thinking it’s “gross,” but we’re progressing). My friends and family are used to it by now. Liz, you are an absolutely stunning individual, and I think you’re that much more gorgeous knowing you sport furry pits. (; Be proud! Be confident! You’re a peach. xx Thanks for dropping by and sharing this. ❤

  3. I prefer to have things “neat and tidy”. I respect those (women) who chose to have arm pit hair, or what have you. If you chose to leave it, it’s all good. It’s nor harming me, and it’s certainly not harming you. We, as a society, have just become accustomed to women shaving parts of the body men don’t and vice versa. Far as I know French women still leave their arm pit hair put (but maybe this has changed?). Some people feel “cleaner” when they shave/trim. Some people feel just fine without shaving.

    This was a well written article love. I like how you expressed your opinions here.
    To each their own, eh? 😀 & mad love to ya!

  4. you are freaking amazing! i respect you whole-heartedly, and strongly encourage you to keep going. you’re awesome!! <33

  5. I don’t shave my pits, but i’ve also been letting my leg hair grow out again so maybe it can catch up with my pits… but i’m thinking about shaving them because it’s getting a little too hairy on my upper theighs (if you know what i mean ;D) Just curious, do you shave your legs?

  6. I really like this article, and how you addressed the “issue.” As a (ftm) man, I must admit I’m proud of my own body hair. Sure, I’m made fun of by my friends for being the “hairy one,” but it’s my hair and I like it. As a being who is sexually attracted to women, I’ve actually questioned my own opinions regarding women’s body hair. I’ve been with women who shave their pits and women who do not, and I’m a bit torn. My gut instinct is to say I prefer women with shaved pits (I really couldn’t care less either way about legs) but I don’t know why. Is it personal preference, the same way I “prefer” redheads aesthetically over blondes (no offense meant to anyone!); is it because I grew up in the US where I was “taught” that women should have hairless armpits; or something else all together? I don’t know. When I see women with hairy pits, I’ve realized my thought process is something along the lines of: ” Hmm, that’s interesting, I don’t think I like that as much as shaved armpits. Wait, why do I even care? That’s not my body, and I don’t shave my own armpits, so why should I care what she does with hers? I guess I don’t really, but aesthetically(?) I think I prefer them shaved.”

    Re: pubes: I had a (now ex, at the time current) girlfriend ask me what my preference was. My response? “Not shaved. Trimmed some, maintained, preferably not a huge tangled “mess,” but definitely not completely gone. I think the whole “looking like a 12 year old” is kind of weird.” (Seriously no offense meant to anyone who shaves and likes it, I’m recounting my response at the time. What you do with your own hair is your own business!) I remember this so clearly because I thought her reply was odd. She said I was the first person she’d ever heard have that response; most guys she’d asked (apparently this was a common question?) said they preferred it completely gone. I thought that was bizarre.

  7. Pingback: Why would any lady choose to shave her pubic hair or from under her armpits? | Attract Pheromones

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